Its been a while

Its been a while since i last sketched.
Its been a while since i last played basketball.
Its been a while since jamal went back to sabah..



born to be lame
in common wealth
what's with their blessed mentality

your superficial protocols
i say, i'm coming right behind

several things i've learnt
a thousand things i've burnt
complications first before the honey

there's nothing real anymore
you're pure and she's so synthetic
it's back to the retro-motion world

domestic nightmares
to make no friends
you turn tour insides out

dressed secular
lean on the fast life
wear out to tear down
you're living a waking dream

several things i've learnt
a thousand things i've burnt
complications first before the honey

there's nothing real anymore
you're pure and she's so synthetic
it's back to the retro-motion world (2x)

did i react?
there's time on and
and everything's done...

I missed out of the Butterfingers show at Istana Budaya.
I blame myself for it.
Procrastinating... is a bad thing.

One of the main reason I love butterfingers that much is because of its lyrics.
Just brilliant!


Wedding Photos

*photos in this album is by fazi.artwork

I'll upload more photos later in my photobucket


Culture shock

First of all, my thanks for those who had pitched in for my wedding.

Just want to share some of my experience during my wedding day.

For those who don't know, I've just married Jamaliah, a beautiful Bajau girl from Semporna Sabah last 27th December 2008.

I arrived in Semporna 3 days earlier and stayed in the Dragon Inn, or much more popular with the name 'floating' among locals. On the big day, My family and I went to Pakcik Musa's (Jamal's uncle) place around 11am to get ready. His place was just a few hundred meter from the Jamal's place. Chit chated with him to wait for Zohor prayers before getting ready. Just after finishing my prayers I asked him if I could get ready. Iwent like something like this.

Me: Boleh saya bersiap sekarang ka?
Pakcik Musa: Blum lagi, tunggu imam datang dulu.

Me: ....?(blur) Napa?
Pakcik Musa: Nanti dia datang, kasi mandi kamu dulu baru boleh bersiap. Me: err.... ? (still blurred)
Pakcik Musa: Di sini memang begitu. Nanti dia datang, mandikan kamu supaya hilang rasa gementar kamu tu.

Me: Oooo.... (actually confused)

So, when the Tok Imam came (also Jamal's uncle)...

Imam: Kamu pergi mandi dulu kasi bersih apa patut.
Me: Ok (but still standing still)
Pakcik Musa: ..?
Me: Ada kain basahan dengan tuala tak? (Am I supposed to shower naked? I don't think thath people normaly bring 'kain basahan' and towels to get ready for marriage) Pakcik Musa: Oh ya kan... Me: huuhuhuhuhu (thank god!)

After showering alone, the imam came to the shower.

Imam: Sudah mandi ya? Ok, duduk mengadap kiblat.
Me: ok... (fixing my position)

He went ahead and showered me while reading some prayers. After that it dried up and continue to get ready with my white baju melayu. It started to rain a bit. Once finished, we all went to the car and headed towards Jamal's place accompanied by the kompang and all the 'hantaran'.

Arrived at the destination with my heart pounding. The sambulayang (acts as a notice that a ceremony will be held) looks so big. The MC announced my arrival and some prayers were read. I went in, followed by the 'rombongan hantaran' and everybody else.

I sat inside the hall room and the Tok Kadi came and everything ust went on like usual until...

Kadi: Pihak perempuan setuju?
Jamal's elder sister cam in and pass a piece of white cloth.
Kadi: Ok, kain ini tandanya pengantin perempuan bersetuju bernikah sama kamu.

He held his hand out and i reached for it, and then he covers up our hand with the piece of white cloth. Then he leaned up to me and said.

Kadi: Ini, tutup tangan supaya tak nampak menggigil .

Me: Oh.... (while some of these near to us were laughing)
Kadi: Muhammad Arief bin Suparjo Noordin
Me: Ye saya,

Kadi: Aku nikahkan...................tunai.

I sat frozen for a while, I tought the kadi would do a practice round first, or at least give me a script of what to say first! I did not practice anything because from what I know, different places has different things to say during akad! After the short pause...

Me: Aku terima............. tunai.
Kadi: Tak boleh tu... selepas saya baca akad kene terus jawab. Tak boleh tunggu2.
Me: Oh.. (smiling, at least there nothing wrong with my reply)

So we started take 2

Kadi: Aku nikahkan...................tunai.
Me: Aku terima.............. tunai.
Saksi1: ... sah

Kadi: Tak boleh macam tu, selesai saja si arief ni jawab, saksi kene terus cakap sah atau tidak. tak boleh tunggu lama2.
Saksi1&2: Ok...

Take 3! (third one's the charm)

Kadi: Aku nikahkan...................tunai. Me: Aku terima.............. tunai.
Saksi1: sah

Saksi2: sah

Followed by cheering by the audience. It went on like normal after that, until I was brought to Jamal's room. The imam held on to one end of the white cloth i mention earlier while i held on to the other end. He led me into the room took my hand and put it onto Jamal's forehead. He read something and I was asked to repeat it.

Finished with that, I gave Jamal the 'mas kahwin' and my aunt put the rings on our fingers. We then went out and went on bersanding for awhile. There were music by gamelan players from outside, there were also people doing the 'mengalai'. We were also asked to dance this tradisoanl dance.

The singer will continue singing as long as you're still dancing. So, if you stop dancing the singer will stop. And the other thing, people will be giving money during the dance.

That's what happen during the day. I'll continue writing about the rest later. It's time to sleep!


A week

Yup, its been a week since our big day. A very memorable week it is, yet i'm feeling so down right now. By the time i upload this post, Jamal would already be thousands of feet off the ground on the way to Sandakan. Had a very long day, but might write about it later. I know that having a long distance relationship is tough, but i also know that Jamal and I am tough enough... Insya'allah. Please do pray for the best for our relationship... For now, it's back to my bachelor life.:-(